I also have low back pain but I have 3 facet joints in my lower back that are shot so the back pain (I think) is explained. All my children have grown up and move away. I didn't want to take antibiotic (because I have severe allergy to some) so I started with the natural route. I was in recovery for PTSD and dealing with anxiety and depression before perimenopause hit and then this pandemic followed. People sometimes find feeling statements extremely difficult. And always scared of everything. I hope you feel better but at least you know you aren't alone. The idea of "I statements" was introduced during the 1960s by psychologist Thomas Gordon as a way to help children learn to connect emotions with behaviors during play therapy. Stretching and walking seems to help. Take Care. Let's face it, when you're feeling like a loser you don't feel anything else. Have your symptoms gotten any better? The ultrasound nurse was horrible and wouldn't tell me what it means! Every ache, pain I swear to God I am Googling convinces I have cancer or something and dying! I've had my blood, urine, fecal checked --- all have come out normal. Once the feeling is stated, it should be connected to an issue or event. Like you i do gets bouts of no energy but then some days I almost feel normal then bam you wake up and there is a new issue to deal with. Yes id love to talk to anyone about this. I dont want to use HRT. My Alp levels came back elevated for the first time ever at 128. so sick of the bloating, sickness and flatulence! You can almost compare it to mindful . Moderator comment: I have removed the contact details as we do not publish these in the forums. It is likely that Susan only got a defensive response. This is the worst fear that I could imagine and my PTSD was pretty bad but I don't compare it because at least I understood what caused it. Not sure why or what happens to our body during those times. Half of what i see is so inaccurate. Im 55; will be 56 in August. i given up i dont think ever will get back to normal..its been 10 years for me! I am not bleeding, no heart burn, not bloated, not gaining or losing any weight just the occasional nausea which has been going on for years. I feel your pain, you have my sympathy and hope that by telling my tale, you know that there are other women out there going through the same thing. Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. I have also had the urinary issues, mine lasted for about 8 months and seem to have tapered off just as some of my other peri symptoms have acted up again. I've had bloods and ECG done - all normal but I plan to speak to my GP about the stomach/flank symptoms. my nausea was about once a month for over a year. I never use to be like this. My alkaline phosphatase is elevated as well as my sed rate. Im 55; will be 56 in August. I had lots of stomach issues with Covid, super constipated and it lasted for what seemed like forever but I also have belly issues with peri. This page is used to house a list of albums in Extreme Music's Scoreganics (SCS) series. Does propranolol help you? Out of all the symptoms I have had, the urinary ones were the worst! Its so scary. I am a member of other menopausal chatrooms too. I am so thankful to know i am not alone. I am 53, 3 years no period and at first I was like "this is a piece of cake". Is this normal or am I just losing my mind cuz it sure feels like it! Honestly it's terrible. at times i will feel the ache in my left side. I-messages are frequently utilized as a way to resolve conflict without putting people on the defensive. Worst day of my life. I was having hormonal issues then. Yes, I found the oregano oil to be very effective but when I took it I was also on a very strict low fodmap diet ant I think I was also taking something to increase acid production in the stomach, because she said that a lot of times when we think we have acid it is in fact the other way round, that we have low acid, I can't remember the name sorry (pepsin?). I've tried my hardest not to Google symptoms because of course everything points to cancer (my biggest fear). Can things get any worse? Dr. ruled out ear infection. It occured to me when I had a bout of yeast infections that would not go away without diflucan for about three months, but the feeling when I knew I had a yeast infection was bladder discomfort like Interstitial Cystitis. How are you doing? Ill use Gynetrof moisturizer the otger nights that im not using Premarin. Then COVID. I had an ice-cream bar the other night right before I went to bed and HOLY HELL! im learning that women especially watch other women for styles and although we do admire other women, it doesnt mean you are attracted to them. Thank you for your testimony! NOW, the bladder! Maybe you could that, give the natural route a go and if you are not satisfied with the results you could then weigh up taking antibiotics. kadija. im with you getting down and seeking God is the only thing i need too God is in control of our health . Thank goodness for your reply. I'm always making a drs appointment about something! I have never had children but if i had id try to give them a heads up. Health anxiety is the worst. I think when hormones are off, the pH gets messed up and causes all sorts of strange things in the bladder/vagina. (lol). I dont have IC though, thank You, Jesus! hope we all do . I'm here for you if you need to talk, Hi Viola, I was afraid this thread was dead since the last entry was 6 weeks ago but still wanted to give it a shot. Im not happy for anyones suffering but happy to have met you awesome ladies who have validated exactly what I experience. Because of terrible hot flashes I went on HRT about six years after menopause and after a bit the urinary problems returned. Just a suggestion. Should not be any higher than 30. I've been to the doctors office twice regarding this. It's consuming my life as it's all I think about. On bad days, my whole body hurts. For example i google "urination problems in your fifties" or something like that and guess popped up? It can be brought on by stress..do anyone in your family have diverticulitis or IBS? Nausea a constant now. I just want to feel a bit normal with a good night sleep. I also just underwent several tests for digestive issues. 'I feel' statements can be contrasted with 'you' statements, which are more confrontational and place the blame directly on the listener. the worst feeling ever. It would really make me feel better if you could help me with this.". Looking back I am pretty sure I am 8 months into it but symptoms are getting worse. I wondered how you were doing as this sounds a lot like me right now hope you see doing well. I am mentally, physically and emotionally drained to say the least. I have lists and lists of symptoms , just wondering what sill be next you are not alone , keep your faith . You really will be ok. Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. Looking forward to a couple of days off over Christmas. For me, faith too is cornerstone in this struggle. It's hard to think positive, I mean really hard, and we end up wallowing in self pity and just feeling sorry for ourselves. So I just suffer. Karen, on the other hand, was more likely to receive a response that focused on reducing her frustration level. Thank you again for responding!. I have my faith and i know i would be in so much worse shape without Him in my life and have done plenty of praying. The technical storage or access that is used exclusively for anonymous statistical purposes. My mom never mentioned it. This Corona Virus lockdown is not helping either. my doctor told me to make a will too and that this would help. Luckily I have two dogs for company. I think together and reading each other's posts, it makes us hopeful and not so alone! I ache all over as well and have had so many stomach issues. This has topped me off as well as extremely heavy periods which last for days! one of a million new and strange things that's happened to me that I didnt have an actual term for. 7th ed. I am sorry you are feeling this way too. For example, the speaker in the previous example might say, "I feel sad that I have to do this alone. Omg I thought I was dying, tight chest. One reason "I feel" statements might help defuse conflict is a phenomenon known as the norm of reciprocity. But be reassured you really are ok. Hormones effect every part of our body and it's normal. Thinking of you too! Your self worth, self esteem, self confidence and all that other good 'self' stuff is gone right out the window. Running can also help you to better concentrate. Read our editorial policy. I feel for you, because I am feeling the same way. I tell my doctors I think the anxiety and digestive issues are hormone related but they look at me like I'm crazy.I'm looking for a new doctor who is female and post menopausal that has a clue what this stage is all about. I suffer terrible medical anxiety so understand what you are going through. There is no shame in taking medications when you need them. I'm not sure if i caused them myself with the constant worry. I take a low dose of propanolol with no side effects and it does help. underwent upper and lower endoscopies today in hopes of finding out why appetite gone and nauseous. Mahmoodi A, Bahrami B, Mehring C. Reciprocity of social influence. Treatment such as creams and pessaries are often very effective in helping the symptoms. Don't really bother me but do any of you ladies have this awful nausea? i did speak to a therapist about it which really helped and i told my parents. I wouldn't say I'm 100% cured because I still have some issues now and again but I am so much better. I read your post and I have the same EXACT symptoms.the nausea is awful. feeling scared and depressed..hope things will get better for everyone soon! and I wait in the car park without going in. My nausea kind of went away replaced by this head crap and not sure what is worse. The doctors had no idea what the problem was. Not quite dizziness, more like I'm on a boat. People tend to feel a need to reciprocate, including in communication. I would so love to meet some of you ladies. do you feel good after taking only Oregano oil ? i can totally picture myself doing this! All of a sudden I had almost every one of the perimenapause symptoms. this will all pass so dont worry but get help if you need it. I have these symptoms and more and still have periods, but I hold hope and I truly believe what we eat/consume has a lot to do with it and also our need to look after our own mental health during this process. The doctors didnt have an answer as to why so thats what got me googling which led to my health anxiety. Upgrade to Patient Pro Medical Professional? Waking up after 3 hrs of sleep in complete panic. i also gained a bunch of new food allergies and intolerances because it caused my immunity to go down. While these messages can vary, there are three essential components of afeeling statement: This refers to stating the speaker's real feelings only, and it starts with the word "I." i had the same fear about dying and losing my parents and it eventually got better and went away. The use of I-messages is also more likely to evoke feelings of empathy, cooperation, and openness to negotiation in listeners. Well i dont want my levels any higher. praying for us all, Hi there! im worrying about everything, kids, my health !! I also get rib pain on my left side only, comes and goes. My heart goes out to everyone dealing with this. usually i am a really positive person but lately it is hard to be positive. x, Hi, my periods are very irregular, I won't have a period for 3-4 months, then I'll have one every 18 days a few times, the 5 months withoutI've had quite a lot of tests, bloods, been to 2 neurologists, gynae, gastro docs, all okish, except for Sibo and low in vit d and iron. The pain in my throat and ears of all things was TONSIL STONES! These are my symptoms, and the past 10 days have been the worstHowever in under a month I would have reached a year without a period. For example, a person might say, "I feel angrywhen I am alone and you are out with your friends.". Then I was off balance at times. Just had mild hot flashes, periods all over the place and that was about it. i have been turning to God also. It was only a few times. Nat Commun. Feeling statements can be helpful in both everyday communication as well as in therapeutic settings. I'm having the same problems with my liver.My Alp is 150 and I'm getting test done next week and google has scared the crap out of me. When people talk about feelings, they often have a tendency to assign blame first while downplaying the feeling. I realize this was posted months ago but I'm hoping there are still others out there that can relate i feel as if this perimenooause is breaking me i literally feel as if I'm dying from nausea the moment i wake up to constant anxiety and panic attacks, jelly legs etc its horrible and so overwhelming I don't recognize myself I used to be such a practical thinking person. I hear you. Finally, a solution should be given. We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are Instead, speakers should keep the focus on their own emotions, how the issue is affecting them, and what solutions might help. Patient does not provide medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. You definitely are not alone. I've been to the ER due to this issue thinking I had bladder cancer, nope all tests come back normal. It started a month ago. I'm very thankful for your post because now I know I'm not alone. I am always telling my husband i don't want to be alone. I read a lots try to keep my mind occupied till I get tired and I fall asleep.. I feel such dread, especially in the morning. Is it possible to feel like crap 80% of the month? It seems to hit like every 3 months and last for about a week (which seems like a year)! Its supposed to be a bone/liver blood marker. Its not easy, I hope you have support around you. No one told me about the weird anxiety, vertigo and digestive issues. What next! Registered number: 10004395 Registered office: Fulford Grange, Micklefield Lane, Rawdon, Leeds, LS19 6BA. I had similar bladder/urinary issues when I was in the menopause transition which disappeared after menopause. im on HRT patch and anti depressant but i dont think this one is working so i may need to switch. It's strange, I got thru peri and meno without too much trouble except for maybe some sudden outbursts of anger (and I'm not an angry gal!) Its Feb 5 now and on April 15 it will be my one full year without a period. One way to accomplish this is through the use of "I feel" statements, also known as feeling statements, I-messages, or just I-statements. i feel like i am slowly dying and even tho all my tests come back normal ( and i havr had a lot ) that they are missing something thats gonna kill me. it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i am at the end of my rope. Put a little on your finger. The offers that appear in this table are from partnerships from which Verywell Mind receives compensation. 2016;35(2):180-205. doi:10.1177/0261927X15583114. I apologize for the TMI. Maybe I do but i still should be heard by them even if im wrong about my health. I'm finally considering some form of HRT, do some research first, if youre in peri estrogen tends to be higher, i developed fibroids when this started and estrogen makes them worse x, my chest pains have been really bad today I feel sick and faint and the head pressure too. So weird. So i have been vigilant in my drinking. Then it will go away and come back. Strange taste in my mouth and don't know from one day to the next what symptoms I will have when i wake up. Rocking sensation, like I'm swaying. Corganics Clinical CBD Softgels provide patients with a precise serving of THC-free CBD in a convenient form. And we wonder why we are all getting health anxiety! When the other person is immediately on the defense, they are less likely to listen and respond with an open mind. Hi Leisa: im now about 2 weeks post. I have always had them but with menopause and everything drying out, they are more common! It's frightening and debilitatingthe crying, the anxiousness coursing through me, the nausea, the panic attacks all night long. These Drs truly dont listen heck the emts mentioned menopause. Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. My doctors think stress/anxiety are causing my symptoms. I had lots of tests all came back negative. Hi Sherricl & Ukkiwibird (and all you lovely ladies out there)!!! VERY scary. I'd greatly appreciate hearing from you if/when convenient for an update. I last bled in December and FSH test came out at 76. the constant worry of something horrible is going to happen!!! 2018;6:e4831. I have a lot of anxiety over it! She will be ok but it's going to be a long drawn out legal battle as the driver fled and his best friend died. Hi Sian: Im sending good, healing thoughts and prayers your way! Everyone described me as "strong". I have had this deep ache and almost burning type sensation right on top of my pubic bone. Strangely I don't have hot flashes yet but I'm sure they are around the corner. Our website is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. I've had this for the last 3 months. I feel like hiding and just hoping for my body to stop this storm. growing physically and menatlly very tired. It scares me and if there are any ladies out there experiencing this, I would LOVE to hear from you. My health anxiety is dreadful. Youre right: googling is dangerous! Thank you for your suggestions , I got the antibiotics but i did some research some say the SIBO came back others with so many side effects so i was scared not knowing what would be the outcome now its expired , so i had to request for a refill with the holistic doctor since i didnt go back to see her for a year she recommends to see me which will be 100% out of pocket pay-for visit i almost spent $1,500-2,000 for follow up visits and private lab works . I dont hardly have it anymore. I NORMALLY have labs done every year but this year has been epic so I have not been in but have never had any bad labs (hope I don't jinx myself). Insomnia. Posted i too get muscle tremors around my body, hot flashes and twitches or zapping feeling or skin crawling and the bloating and vaginal flatulence at times. I just started menopause, I feel very weird and sick at time. This strategy can also help couples begin to build greater empathy for one another. We should have (when COVID is over) a national menopause convention like in Las Vegas. as being in breach of those terms. A feeling statement keeps the focus on the feeling of the speaker which is less likely to elicit a defensive reaction and more likely to promote effective communication. have had periods off/on during course of last 3 years --- during which hospitalized twice for extreme nausea, dry heaving and dehydration. Im nauseous but hungry. My shoulder blade and ear and throat pain have gotten better and I was feeling pretty good and now I'm having alot of acid relux and feeling like I need to burp and cant. Also forcing beverages down to keep from getting dehydrated. I feel nauseous rather flu-like, have the anxiety especially health anxiety, muscular aches and pains, digestive issues, and the weirdest bladder symptoms ever. Did yours go back down.? It felt strange when I breathe, like there's candyfloss in my lungs.. Lol.. I have recently started getting discomfort in my right flank/around the base of my ribs. I'm now in battle to keep weight on. I am 49 and I swear this hit me overnight. I think you are onto something with your statement that one winds down when another revs up. Hi Becky, sorry to hear that you're having the same problem. I wish you well with everything and hope these symptoms will be a thing of the past for all of us. 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